Dominant girls.

He likes “dominant” girls? That´s the expression he used. Dominant girls. I assumed he liked hyper-girly girls, because those would affirm his masculinity, but no, he likes “dominant girls.” What does that mean? Masculine girls? But most of those are lesbians! He is going to have real trouble finding a straight girl who is also masculine. I mean, it looks like he likes the same girls he used to like before transitioning; the problem that I see is that most of those girls are lesbians. He is a man now, so these girls shouldn´t even look at him. I mean, if I were Aiden, I would be pretty offended if a masculine girl who lives out as a lesbian were to put her eyes on me, because she would be openly questioning my masculinity.


Bisexuality can make things even trickier: it could be used as a cover by a girl who likes girls, wants to sleep with Aiden, but doesn´t want Aiden to find out that she doesn´t consider him to be a complete man. It can be a nice shortcut: “Oh, Aiden, I have always been a lesbian, but just and only because of you I consider myself to be bisexual now.” Yeah, right: sorry, but I think that a lesbian who switches to bisexuality when facing Aiden is just a lesbian who doesn´t consider Aiden to be a man.

What about a bisexual girl who has always been out as such? I mean, not a lesbian using the short cut, but a real bisexual girl. That´s even trickier: how could Aiden ever know if this girl really considers him to be a man? We, girls, are manipulative and professional liars. She can tell him 1000 times she considers she is sleeping with a man, but how would Aiden know that´s true? If he dates a straight, average girl, he can be sure this girl sees him as a man, since she is just not even attracted to girls. But Aiden likes them “dominant.” Straight and dominant. To me, that sounds hard to find. Not to him, since he has been seeing girls lately. No, I´m not getting them on camera: he asked me not to do that and his arguments were reasonable enough.

Maybe it´s all about body language in bed. I mean, I´m pretty sure the way a girl undresses a boy is not the way a girl undresses another girl. It´s a matter of chemistry; I honestly believe we, girls, relate to girls with a different body language than the one we use with boys. It´s a bonding thing; we look the same, somehow we can relate to each other and our body language reflects that. I observe lesbians closely and I can see they keep that: yes, you can tell their body language reflects sexual attraction, but it still keeps the among-girls “touch” on it. I don´t think it is conscious. When a girl sleeps with a boy, the body language is different, there are other codes. I´m not talking about positions or “things” to do in bed, no: I´m talking about body language, signals, ways to get closer or more distant with another body. I think a girl wouldn´t undress a boy or a girl in the same way. Well, this whole thing is really, really stupid: Aiden knows pretty well the language of a girl undressing another girl; therefore he would feel the difference when being undressed by a girl who considers him to be a man. Yeah, maybe body language makes the whole difference: maybe that´s the way Aiden can differentiate a girl who is using bisexuality as a short cut to hide her lesbianism and one who is honestly sleeping with a man.